I am living the life of my dreams!

Are you? When I ask you this question, what comes up for you?

For me, so many things come up. First, I take a snapshot of my life and I get curious. I look at my health, (physical, mental and financial), my relationships (with myself and others), my livelihood (how am I making money to support myself), and my home. Then I ask myself, “If I was living the life of my dreams, what would that look like? What would my ____________ look like?”

Then if it doesn’t look like the life of my dreams, I reverse engineer that shit….

Let me give you an example from my life, my health. When I think of a healthy physical life, I start with the basics. How do I feel? How do I look? Am I at a weight that I am happy at? When was the last time I went to the doctor for a well visit and what were my results? I ask these questions of myself, not from a judgey place, but from a place of curiosity and compassion. If the answer is no, then I say why not?

This is where it gets tricky. You have to be honest with yourself and you have to be kind to yourself. Let’s continue with my example of my dream health life. I feel great! Check! I look great! Check! Hmm, my weight, I would love to be 5 lbs lighter.

Ok, why aren’t you the weight you want to be? Because of blah blah blah blah blah. We all have our own answers. However, this is the million dollar question. What are you willing to do or not do to get to the weight of your dreams? Are you willing to skip the french fries? Are you willing to work out a minimum of 30 minutes everyday? Again, be honest and kind with yourself!!! And remember, this is an information inquiry. Sometimes the answer is NO, and that’s OK! You don’t have to do anything with this information. It’s just real talk to yourself.

In conclusion:

We have one life, nothing is promised, and I am going for “the GOLD” in my personal life! Yes, I have been very much inspired by the Olympics.

If you would like to explore any of these topics with me, I am a certified life coach and me and my clients are getting great results! Your first session is complementary. Email me at monique(at)dashtosoullifecoaching.com.

Right after Thanksgiving in the US, there is the mad rush of “the holidays.” For me and for many others, there is this feeling of pressure. Pressure to do all things Christmas!

When my daughter was younger, it was about getting her gifts, decorating the tree, and holiday cards. Now that she is older, those thoughts and demands aren’t as prevalent.

Now it is the pressure that we put upon ourselves.  How do you get through the holidays?

With endless holiday commercials, ads and decorated windows, the season is forced on us all. This is fine if you are mentally prepared and all about the holidays. But for many the holidays can bring a myriad of emotions and many aren’t jolly.

Maybe it’s the pressure to buy gifts that you can’t afford. Anxious feelings of seeing family members or loneliness and sadness.

Then there are the endless holiday parties. Those you long to be invited to that you may see on social media and those you are invited to, with the possibility of over drinking and overeating.

This season, which is supposed to bring about feelings of joy and love, often can leave us broke, fat, and depressed.

PLUS, life’s normal annoying occurrences.

It can all be very overwhelming!

How does one cope?

 Let me give you the top 5 things that I do to help me get through it!

1. Move your body, dance, walk, swim, or workout. SOMETHING
2. Keep your friends and loved ones close (the ones that bring joy, not drama).
3. Drink a lot of water.
4. Before attending the holiday parties and gatherings, have some sort of eating and drinking protocol.
5. Find a person who will work with you through the challenging times. Like me, a certified Life Coach.

Love Mo

It was a Sunday morning and I was on my way to work. My Sunday was like some people’s  Monday, the end of my weekend.  I was dragging ass. I had stayed up too late watching mindless TV, working on a picture and post for Instagram. My night before endeavors was having current morning consequences and it was not pretty. I was not happy and chipper Mo. I was grumpy Mo.

As I rode the elevator down to the lobby, body slumped, head leaning on the wall, I began to lament with the voice I call the Whiner– and she was saying “I don’t want to go to work. It’s not fare that I have to be up soooo early on a Sunday morning, blah, blah blah blah blah” I was all up in my Emotional Childhood* At that moment I stopped myself. I changed my self talk to “I get to go to work! I get to go to work at one of America’s premier health clubs. I get to take the elevator… I get to walk to my garage and drive myself to work.” It had a profound effect on me. In that moment, I went from “the Whiner” to “the Supporter”.* Emotional Adulthood
I started to smile and thought WOW, perspective is everything.

Is there something in your life that you bitch and moan about? That if you just paused for a second and changed the words from “I have to” to ” I get to” – Changed up the verb….. I get to go to work. Or I have the privilege to drive myself to work – maybe just maybe you too will have a shift.

I was still dragging ass, I couldn’t replace the sleep that I didn’t get, but on my 10 minute walk to the garage, I was able to turn my frown upside down! Try it and let me know if it works for you.

*Emotional Childhood – Act like a child; not taking responsibility for my actions; blaming others for my circumstances

*Emotional Adulthood -Act like an adult; take full responsibility for my actions; be accountable for my choices

Where in your daily living are you not taking responsibility for what’s going on in your life?  Blaming others for your situations.  If you are interested in up leveling your life, or exploring with me; stepping up and showing up for yourself, book a free consultation…..

Right On!

Love, Mama Mo